Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself

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I found that I got to learn more about myself and others in my life but that I was severely lacking in a codependent support group near where I live.

I never realized the extent to which my relationship warped me, to some level my fault for allowing it to happen, but the book also presented a lot of ways to come to an understanding of what it means to be a codependent and also ways to combat and correct behavior.Things actually improved then – Maria was respected at work, and she enjoyed the new freedom it gave her. I'm going to give it a 3 at this point, as I do think there are some really good insights that I felt were beneficial. I realized that I can make decisions and not have to worry if my opinion is what other people may think or want. It’s filled with helpful insights into codependency and outlines some basic tools that people can use to recover. I didn't completely like the religious angles that much, though they will be good for some people, and at times it seemed as though there was an awfully large umbrella for which people could be defined as codependent.

For anyone who has a history of alcoholism in their family of origin or going through alcoholism with a partner this is a MUST read. The husband, dependent on the alcohol, is hampered in his ability to overcome alcoholism because of his codependent wife.I was thinking of "co-dependency" in a more generic sense — say, the way a married couple can be enmeshed and lose their boundaries with each other. Kaip gelbėtojo, persekiotojo ir aukos vaidmenys susiję viens su kitu ir nuolat keičiasi, tu gelbsti kitą, tada pradedi jaustis auka, tada imi persekioti tą žmogų, tada jis tampa auka, tada tu jį gelbsti. you come across this simple but truthful book and your eyes open wider, as you will learn something new about being controlling without realising it. Ir tada jie ir jos dalyvauja tame, ką Berne'as pavadintų alkoholiko žaidimu: vienas svaiginasi, kitas jį "gydo" ir įgalina. To calculate the overall star rating and percentage breakdown by star, we don’t use a simple average.

My criticisms would be that it seems very dated in places, and she does like to use the word "God" when I would've preferred her to use Higher Power, however, that should not diminish the significance or importance of this book. I do not agree that any healing is dependent on having a belief in any God, Higher Power or set steps. I hadn't realized that my behavior was this way, nor had I even heard of codependency until one of our increasingly frequent fights went too far. Melody Beattie is the author of Beyond Codependency, The Language of Letting Go, Stop Being Mean to Yourself, The Codependent No More Workbook and Playing It by Heart.Though the warning signs came early – he stayed out drinking all night on their honeymoon – Jessica was in denial about her husband’s condition . This ground-breaking book is even more relevant today, as readers confront new, urgent challenges with greater self-awareness than when it first entered the national conversation over 35 years ago.